Sunday, December 12, 2010

Wedding Flashback: Part 2

....O.K., so he had actually done it.  He had gone and proposed when I told him not to.  I could tell he was nervous, and while he looked slightly relieved when I said yes, he still looked like he might throw-up.  We called family, and went out to eat to celebrate.  It all felt like an out-of-body experience.  So many things ran through my head...Ohmygosh, I'm ENGAGED!  Ohmygosh, I'm scared!  Ohmygosh, can I do this?

All of the excitement (and shock) from our family and friends helped me calm down a little bit, but those old thoughts of "I'm not a marrying type of girl" came flooding back.  I just had so much fear.  Fear stemming from my parents multiple failed marriages, not having a strong relationship model in my life, not wanting to conform to what people thought I should do.  This really started to take a toll on not just me, but Hubby too.  He could tell I wasn't at ease with the whole thing.  I kept saying things like, "Well, I'm NOT changing my name,"  or "Maybe we should just be engaged for a couple, few years."  

Finally, one night it all came to a head.  He sat me down and asked why I was acting this way.  Why I had said yes, if I didn't really want to.  Why was I so scared of getting married?  I just burst into tears.  I didn't know.  All I knew was that I was scared terrified of getting married, of it failing, or losing him.  He looked me in the eyes and told me that the reason he wanted to marry me was not to "tie me down."  The reason he wanted to marry me was to make me his family.  ME?  Bratty, unappreciative, nonconforming me.  Well, shoot.  More tears.  He said all he wanted out of life was for us to be a family; to have kids that shared a name with both of us, and to always be partners no matter what.  More tears.

At this moment, I knew.  I knew that getting married didn't mean I was losing myself, or my independence.  It didn't mean I was throwing in the towel and conforming.  It meant that I was signing up for a life together with someone I already knew I wanted to spend it with, and all that "stupid piece of paper" meant was that legally we were a "family" even when we already knew we were.  So, I threw myself wholly into the rest of the wedding planning, and when I got to that day, I knew it completely, utterly, fully reflected what I wanted it to. That what I cared about was having a party to celebrate with our family and friends, to be soft and romantic without being gag-inducing, and to just be....perfect.  So, here are some pictures as I unload my wedding flashback on you.  And to Hubby, Thank you for sticking with me, whipping me into shape, and making me realize that marrying you was everything I never knew I wanted.

Saturday, December 11, 2010

Wedding Flashback: Part 1

As I have been thinking about our "Style Overhaul," I keep thinking about our wedding (July 17, 2010), and how I am truly happy with how it turned out.  I have to begin by saying I was a reluctant bride.  For many reasons, I just did not see myself getting married.  I wasn't one of those girls who plans their wedding in their head from the time they are a little girl, or fantasized about THE dress.  But, not long after I met HUBBY I knew that I wanted to be in it with him for the long haul. However, I still did not think I could pull the marriage trigger.  It freaked me out to put it mildly.  As I have mentioned, Hubby and I lived together, and I was perfectly content taking that step. (Livin' In Sin, as my grandmother would say)  When it came to getting engaged and taking the plunge, however, I just got hives, the shakes, downright crazy!  My family knew the way that I felt, but when things started getting serious with Hubby and I, they started asking questions.  Like, "So do you think you'll change your mind about getting married?"  "Come on, deep down you really want to get married don't you?"  All this did was freak me out more.  I could feel "the moment" nearing, and no matter how many times I made it known to Hubby (then Boy Toy) that I DID NOT want him to propose, he just kept saying, "Things will work out the way they're supposed to."

Anywho, one day I was on my way home from softball practice (I coach high school softball), and I called Hubby as always to let him know I was on my way.  He asked what I wanted for dinner, and I said it didn't matter.  He said he would check the cupboards and call me back with options.  He called back a couple minutes later and said we didn't have a whole lot on hand, and asked if I wanted to go out to eat instead.  I of course agreed.  He told me to think of 2 places I wanted to go, and he would think of 2, then we could narrow it down when I got home.

I walked in the door 30 minutes later and went straight to the bedroom to get out of my practice clothes.  I had just reached the bedroom when Boy Toy called me back out to decide where we should eat.  I groaned something about, "Can't I at least change my clothes!"  But, I followed him to the kitchen.  He said he had made a little game for me to choose where we were going to eat.  He had Scrabble tiles out on the counter...Now some would say, "You should have known something was up!"  But, believe it or not, we play games like this all the time, so I thought nothing of it.  He had two piles of letters for me to figure out. I knew immediately the first pile spelled out "Twisted Fork," one of our favorite restaurants.  Then I went to the second pile.  I took one look at it and went into shock.  Before I could say that I knew what the letters spelled, Hubby said from behind me, "Do you need some help?"  I turned around and he was on his knee with a ring.  I said yes (obviously, or he wouldn't be "Hubby" now), but the story doesn't end there.....

Grandpa's Desk

Just a quick Before & After post.  This was Hubby's grandfather's desk.  He got it after his grandmother passed away a few years ago.  

When we were doing our office redo buying a new desk wasn't in the budget, but we also didn't particularly want to get rid of his grandfather's desk, so we updated it with a paint job and shiny new handles.  You can see we also did the filing cabinet that sits next to it.  A quick update to a sentimental piece of furniture.

We also did the filing cabinet you see sitting next to the desk.  

Sorry for 1.) The weird camera angle.  Hubby already had the desk in the office before I could take an After picture, and I was backed up against a wall.  
2.)I cleaned my lens twice, so I'm not sure what all of the spots are.

Office Before and After

Since I didn't know I'd be a blogger back when I started some of these projects, I only have a couple of before shots of the office.  And doozies, they are.  I think I briefly explained that this was the catch-all, wedding dumping grounds for a few months leading up to the wedding, and after too.  The closet was full of shower gifts that we weren't yet using, and the main space just had the desk and things piled everywhere. 


And, here is the after.  Much better in my opinion.  Some style to be seen.


 A close-up of the shelves.  Still a work in progress, and disregard Hubby's horns on top of the left shelf.  Those are remnants from the bachelor office.  The picture frame in the middle is going to hang in the space between the shelves.

To see the tutorial on the curtains, or the Before and After of the desk click on these links.

Monday, December 6, 2010

Christmas Card 2010

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Thursday, December 2, 2010

Stenciled Curtains

As I mentioned in my first post, I couldn't find curtains I LOVED when we were redoing our office.  I considered many things:
a.) Giving up
b.) Sewing my own (Yikes)
c.) Settling

Finally, like the heavens parting, I came across Rachel's blog First Home Makeover and her stenciled curtains tutorial.  I knew instantly that I would be stenciling curtains for the office.  Now, what kind of stencil? How big should it be?  What color?  Can I even do this?  After Hubby assuring me that we could handle it, I came across this stencil at Hobby Lobby.  It was $4.99.  I also settled on some black fabric paint for $4.99 a bottle.  I bought 2 bottles, but only used 1, and I had sponge brushes on hand.
Balmoral Border Stencil
I ironed the curtains to get all of the creases out, and then had hubby help me lay them flat and measure.  We didn't mark anything once we'd measured, just layed the stencil down, taped the edges in place and started painting.  The stencil has a guide at the bottom that you can line up with the previous stencil so you know where your next one should go.  
(It's hard to see the stencil in this picture, but it's pink and taped at the top)

I would caution against laying it on top though because you'll get paint on the back of your stencil and drag it onto the curtain. (Not that I know about this from experience)  I would continue to measure from your sides so you make sure your stenciled art is straight.  

We continued to the bottom and opted to stop when we got to the last full stencil we could fit on the curtain.  Here they are all hung up.

The Breakdown:
Curtains $14.99 (Target)
Stencil $4.99 (Hobby Lobby)
Fabric Paint $4.99 (Hobby Lobby)
Brushes $FREE (already had on hand)
Tape $FREE (already had on hand)
TOTAL: $24.97

A Girl Needs Her Coffee

I have been seeing these coffee filter wreaths all over Blogland lately.  Some white, some brown, but all awesome.  I had a pack of coffee filters lying around that someone gave us with a wedding gift.  I picked up the floral wreath and white ribbon for $1 each at Dollar Tree.  I got out my trusty glue gun and started by gluing the end of the ribbon down, then wrapping it around the wreath form. 

 It just so happened to work out that when I got to the end I had just enough to make a loop for hanging.  I didn't want a large loop because I like the "floating" on the wall look.  

After wrapping the form with ribbon, I started folding some coffee filters.  Quite by accident I grabbed 2 at a time my first couple of times.  Then I realized that I could pull the layers apart for a fuller, not-so-perfect look.  I just kept filling in with 2-3 filters folded at a time until I had the fullness I wanted.  

Here it is floating hanging on the wall.  Not bad for a 30 minute project.

Monday, November 29, 2010

Trim the Tree

I have been slowly getting our tree up and ready the last couple of days.  We bought a new, larger tree this year, and in the spirit of our "Style Overhaul" our Christmas decor is getting a makeover as well.  Tomorrow I am getting the final ornaments and finishing touches.  I have some tres thrifty ornaments in mind for the tree.  I will hopefully have some pictures of the tree tomorrow.  Until then, here are some pictures to show what I have in mind.

Oh, so excited to finally get the house FINISHED for the holiday.  I feel like I'm behind the game already.  Having Thanksgiving at our house didn't help matters.  

Sunday, November 28, 2010

You Started a Blog?!

I imagine this is what friends and family will say if when they find out I started a blog.  Firstly, some of them will wonder what in the world a blog is, and the others will wonder what I might have to say that's interesting enough to put on a blog.  So to old friends and new, a little about what Change It & Rearrange It is all about:

My husband, Levi, and I were married in July and are settling into "married life."  When we met, he had already purchased a home, (and new to boot!) but it lacked any sort of actual "style."  Unless, that is you call "Bachelor Mess" a style.  Oh, how I wish I knew back then that I'd someday be blogging about the evolution of our home. I would have some killer before and afters to show.  However, I will just say that it was definitely in need of anyone's a woman's touch.

We lived together for a year and a half before we were married (sorry, Grandma), so there was some decorating and redesign going on before we actually got married.  The kitchen has stayed pretty much as-is aside from the wall hangings and things on the shelves (that he made, and only sometimes seem like they're going to tip over).

The living room contained a cheap black leather sofa and a dirty brown recliner when I moved in.  Oh, and who could forget the coffee table found on the curb that sat in the middle of the room.  This room has changed quite a bit in the last couple of years, but is now one of my focuses for our "Style Overhaul" as I'm calling it.

The bathroom.  What can I say here that could properly convey how GROSS it was, without inducing the dry heaving I used to suffer from when walking in there.  Anyone who has experienced a bathroom used by two bachelors whose mothers never introduced them to a toilet brush or mop knows what I'm talking about.  A male appropriate brown and black shower curtain hung and there were actually rugs on the floor. SHOCKER, I know!  It was my first project when moving in, and will also be on my To-Do list for the S.O.

Our bedroom was the first project we tackled after the wedding, and I am loving like it.  It goes more with our new style than our old, but there are already things I would change.  Number one would be having more space, but that's not really an option right now.  Hubby says we can't knock down any walls.  Oh well.  I do still need to find curtains, and possibly stencil the wall behind the bed??  I'm not sure.  The headboard is so big that it kind of blocks most of the space.  As a side note, we got this set at Sam's Club (a warehouse store similar to Costco) for under $1,000.  We were in desperate need of an actual bed frame, matching night stands, and a dresser.  I must admit, however, that within a day of getting it, I already wanted to paint it white.  Eek.  Don't tell hubby that, or either of our mothers who think painting wood is a sin.  In a perfect world, I would also paint the trim, doors, etc. white.  Not on our immediate to do list, but definitely a daily discussion point.

The guest room, which served as his former roommate's room was empty when I moved in.  It is now, just as I called it, a guest room.  I did purchase new bedding some time ago, but am wanting an actual overhaul of this room soon.  The white couch is a freebie my grandma and I got at an auction right before I went to college.  I am very reluctant to let it go because it's so unique, and it was the first piece of furniture I owned.  The dresser is from when I was a child, and GASP! my mom and grandma painted it and put new knobs on it a few years ago.  It will definitely be getting a new color and knobs when I decide what to do with this room.

Finally, the office.  This is the most recent room redo in our short S.O. history.  The desk is Hubby's grandfather's, and I'm delaying telling his family we painted it.  I think they might want to run me out of the family.  Anyway, paint and new silver pulls made it perfect for our office redesign.  The curtains were $15 from Target, plain white.  I used a stencil and fabric paint to jazz them up when I couldn't find curtains to my liking.  (The tutorial will be my next post.)  I'm still wanting to find a better solution to house the printer, but for now it's a definite improvement to the dump-all, wedding decor warehouse room that it was.

We also have a basement, but that's at the bottom of our list right now.  Maybe some year I'll get to that.

So, stay tuned for pictures (Befores, Durings, and Afters), tutorials, gripe-fests, and hopefully some enjoyable posts for people to read.